Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: The Other Toxin

Posted on November 17, 2013 by RealityCheck

If you pay attention to health-related matters, then you’ve heard of toxins. Whether in air, food, or water, toxins are often suspected of causing disease. There’s another toxin that can have a significant impact on one’s life: the toxic relationship! … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Great Expectations

Posted on November 10, 2013 by RealityCheck

Hannah perceives that she is criticized. When family or friends get together, she comes away feeling like an underachiever. Her brother’s children excel, her sister makes more money, and her friends’ lives are more exciting. Although no one is critical … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Turn Around

Posted on November 3, 2013 by RealityCheck

Relationships have differences. If those differences aren’t handled well, they can lead to unfortunate consequences: marriage breakup, financial hardship, traumatized children. Differences at work can lead to people quitting or being fired, to stress, anxiety, lost productivity, and lost opportunities. … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Attitude in Action

Posted on October 28, 2013 by RealityCheck

What’s the most important attribute for success? Ask an employer, teacher, or coach, and it’s pretty likely that somewhere in the answer you’ll find reference to the need for “a good attitude.” In fact, entire libraries could be filled with … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Working with different people

Posted on October 20, 2013 by RealityCheck

Workplaces usually focus more on their business—producing products or delivering services—than worrying about how their willing workers are getting along. However, “getting along” at work isn’t just a feel-good concept; it can have a significant impact on productivity. At work, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Different people; different strengths

Posted on October 14, 2013 by RealityCheck

Different people are different. OK, you knew that already. Something else you may know is that there are people who think, believe, and act in ways that can seem baffling. At some point, you will likely find yourself working, interacting, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Your own influence

Posted on October 6, 2013 by RealityCheck

In my last column, I discussed the influence of Dr. William Glasser. His books and the training that’s offered in choice theory and reality therapy has an impact on folks all over the world. However, it’s not only world-renowned authors, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Dr. Glasser’s influence

Posted on September 29, 2013 by RealityCheck

Dr. William Glasser passed away recently. Even though it’s less than a decade since I first became aware of choice theory and reality therapy, Dr. Glasser’s work now influences almost everything I do. There are plenty of theories about why … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Dragonfly’s Options

Posted on September 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

A dragonfly trapped himself in the porch the other day. You know how that goes, don’t you? For a long time, he beat his head and wings against the closed window, while the open door stood beckoning barely six inches … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Apologies, Demands, and Power

Posted on September 22, 2013 by RealityCheck

An apology is often an effective response when someone has been wronged. Yet, there are also unsatisfying apology scenarios where someone—the victim, the offender, or both—walk away feeling, well…unsatisfied. You know something is still not OK, even if you can’t … Continue reading →

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