Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: The Goal

One term that’s used in goal setting is the BHAG—that stands for the Big Hairy Audacious Goal. (No, I’m not making this up.) Even if your goals are neither hairy nor audacious, the principle of setting goals and maintaining awareness … Continue reading

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Reality Check: A Tale of Two Dates

This column isn’t about dried fruit, nor am I attempting to take over from Ann Landers! I’ve chosen the topic of dates because young (and not-so-young) folks can find it difficult to recognize the true nature of a potential partner. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Criticism—The Great Dissatisfier

Do you seek to be the best you can be? Aspiring to excellence is a wonderful motivator. Actions that you take to improve yourself, your work, and your relationships can have a positive impact on your quality of life. Do … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror continued

Last time, I introduced you to Sam, who has been having conflicts with just about everyone, most recently including the law. As you care about Sam, you want to help. Sam has already told you that he doesn’t want to … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Mirror, Mirror

 If you’ve ever watched someone you care about act in ways that are non-effective, or even self-destructive, then you know how difficult it is to stand by. You may feel that you need to say or do something. Samuel’s family … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Saddle Up!

The professional organization that’s associated with teaching the world Choice Theory occasionally sends out inspirational quotes. A recent one came from an unexpected source: John Wayne. According to the Duke, “Courage is when you are scared to death, but you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The computer made me do it…

Can a computer “make” you mad? If you’ve ever sat in front of one when things aren’t going well, you understand the question! Whatever the problem: the printer won’t print, the email won’t email, or google declines to google, you’re … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Perception and Schooling

Perceptions we form about ourselves during school days can influence us long after what we’ve learned at school is a dusty memory. Brandon has the perception that he can’t do math. Where did he get that? Perhaps his parents told … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Fight That Never Happens

Does the tension and stress in your life contribute to your physical health? Likely so. Is there anything that you can do about it? That’s the big question, isn’t it?  

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Reality Check: Compatibility and need profiles

Last post, I suggested that it can be interesting and helpful to understand your need strength profile. That is, rate how strong each of these five basic needs are for you: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun. What … Continue reading

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