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Reality Check: What we say; What they hear
Have you ever walked away from a conversation shaking your head and wondering, “What was that all about?” Do you ever perceive that people you talk to are overly sensitive, resentful, or easily offended? Having a conversation that’s a true … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, offering information, perception, work
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Reality Check: The Urge to Justify
Most of us have been on the receiving end of criticism at some point. If that’s you, then you may also be familiar with the urge to respond by justifying your actions. Criticism sometimes comes from the people closest to … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged blame, criticism, discouragement, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?
Choice theory emphasizes self-evaluation. As the word implies, to self-evaluate is to evaluate, for yourself, how well something is working. To self-evaluate, you consider what you want, compare it to the reality, and then determine how well they match. It’s … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged improving relationships, perception, responsibility, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: What you see is what you get
WYSIWYG, pronounced “whizzywig,” means, “What you see is what you get.” I know the phrase from the olden days of computers—back when it was a big deal to have the display on the screen actually reflect what was printed. Computer … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged "should", criticism, examining wants, improving relationships
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Reality Check: Strength or Weakness?
Every one of us has specific strengths. If you like to learn about yourself, then it can be quite satisfying to figure out your individual strengths and how to best use them to reach your goals. Strengths are generally positive … Continue reading
Posted in Develop Understanding
Tagged fairness, improving relationships, perception, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Building a Relationship – Deliberately
We might take the building of relationships for granted. Relationships just happen—we meet someone; we hit it off for whatever reason, and we have a relationship! To be clear, I’m not referring to romantic relationships here. I’m talking about the … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, helpful, improving relationships, priorities
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Reality Check: Choices in Conflict
What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading
Posted in Making a Change
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, improving relationships, perception
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