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Reality Check: Here’s to a Satisfying Holiday
For some folks, the prospect of holidays and the expectations that come with them can evoke feelings that are closer to dread than joy. And if our perception is that others effortlessly produce perfect food, gifts, and parties while surrounded … Continue reading
Posted in Perception & Reality
Tagged "should", examining wants, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: The Reaction Rut
If you’ve ever stubbed your toe, then you’re familiar with quick physical reactions. “Ouch!” (or other words) are almost instant responses to pain; no thought required. Physical pain isn’t the only type of pain though, is it? In choice theory, … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing thoughts, perception, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Lots on your Plate?
Busy, busy, busy. Ask most anyone how they are doing and you’ll often hear, “I’m so busy!” What are some potential consequences of that busy-ness? Harriet cares for a very sick child, looks after an elderly aunt, and has a … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged guilt, improving relationships, perception
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Reality Check: What does respect look like?
Communication is interesting. We come up with ideas—essentially pictures in our minds—that we want to communicate. Then we use words to share those ideas. We tend to assume that everybody understands words the same way. Take the word “respect.” My … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, choosing thoughts, conflict, perception
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Reality Check: The Words of Choice
Although we humans do a lot of talking (and occasionally listening), it can still be difficult to understand each other. Even the words we use with ourselves—our internal dialog—can shape how we understand our lives. Do we believe that we … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing thoughts, freedom, perception
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Reality Check: The People Business
Are you in the “people business”? Almost certainly, the answer is… yes! In their book, Have a Nice Conflict, Scudder, Patterson, and Mitchell assert that everyone is in the people business. There’s nary a line of work where people aren’t … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged conflict, improving relationships, need satisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: The Offer of Information
A choice theory premise is that we can’t control other people; however, we can offer information. Someone who accepts information might learn a new fact, be persuaded to make a decision, or be influenced to act differently. Fundamentally, though, what … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged criticism, offering information, perception
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Reality Check: The Gift in the Event
Bad things can happen to anyone. While we can take action to try to prevent some bad things by driving cautiously, choosing friends carefully, eating reasonably, the reality is that many events are completely beyond our control. We do have … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged choosing thoughts, dissatisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Strong, Wise, or Stubborn?
Bob’s the kind of guy who always seems to know what to do and is always ready to lend a hand. He’s strong, capable, and independent. Then, Bob had a heart attack. Did that change Bob’s life? Well, the doctors … Continue reading
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Tagged happiness, perception, self-evaluation
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