Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: What’s your predisposition?

Posted on June 11, 2017 by RealityCheck

“Sally said my hair looked nice today. Can you believe that!” Did Sally pay me a compliment? Or was that a subtle insult, implying that she noticed an improvement over those many non-nice hair days? Was Sally being sarcastic? Or … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Does the News Hurt Your Relationships?

Posted on June 4, 2017 by RealityCheck

There’s almost always an election in season somewhere. A survey asked whether an election has negatively affected a personal relationship with a friend or family member. It wasn’t about a Canadian election. No matter; it’s still an interesting question that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Is It Just Too Much?

Posted on May 28, 2017 by RealityCheck

Self-evaluation is the process of examining what we are doing and determining whether we’re moving in the direction we want. It can be helpful in many situations. Take Bruce, who works long and hard at work and in life. He’s … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Tired and Cranky, Anyone?

Posted on May 21, 2017 by RealityCheck

By the time I’d finished reading an article promoting an approach to education that I don’t happen to agree with, I felt tired and a tad cranky. I was fine before I started reading. So, what happened? When it comes … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Meltdown

Posted on May 14, 2017 by RealityCheck

A thousand miles away, my usually sunny friend—she who chooses the most positive possible interpretation of everything—had a meltdown. It’s understandable. She’s been living with the reality of several family members diagnosed with cancers. Then, her mom took a tumble … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The two sides of protection

Posted on May 7, 2017 by RealityCheck

Could anyone possibly be against something named “Safe Food for Canadians”? The recent discussion around potentially negative impacts of new food safety regulations on small food producers is a good reminder that just because something has an appealing name doesn’t … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: It wasn’t what I expected

Posted on April 30, 2017 by RealityCheck

The other day, I was giving a presentation in an unfamiliar room using an unfamiliar computer. For some reason, my presentation wasn’t working quite right. While it looked more or less the way it should, the system wasn’t responding as … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Out of the Ashes

Posted on April 23, 2017 by RealityCheck

When good things happen, when our needs and expectations are being met, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to feel satisfied and happy. However, when bad things happen, we’re given the delightful and very useful gift of an opportunity … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When you doubt yourself

Posted on April 16, 2017 by RealityCheck

While unjustified confidence can be perceived as arrogance, justifiable confidence is a positive quality. Self-doubt, for any of us, can result in a lack of enjoyment of our lives. An athlete who loses confidence can lose their enjoyment of the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When there’s no perfect option

Posted on April 9, 2017 by RealityCheck

Have you ever needed to make a decision, only to find that there isn’t a single perfect option among the possibilities? That’s the usual case, isn’t it? If there were a perfect option, we’d go right ahead and choose that. … Continue reading →

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