Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: Are you the only one?

Posted on April 3, 2022 by RealityCheck

Have you ever done something that you regret? Or avoided doing something that you now regret not doing? I have a feeling that most of us can answer yes to one or both of those questions. Now, ask yourself: Do … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Joy and the Sadness of Special Events

Posted on March 27, 2022 by RealityCheck

It’s been customary to mark special occurrences in our lives with events. We celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, graduations and other happy occasions. We also mark sad, difficult events with funerals and memorials. So much has changed in just a few … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Respect in Times of Turmoil

Posted on March 20, 2022 by RealityCheck

From your perspective, is the world in a state of turmoil? And if you do believe that these are unusually troubled times, does that belief affect how you live your life? The world can seem very small. Communications that used … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Adapting, Changing, and Getting Along

Posted on March 14, 2022 by RealityCheck

Change. Does it seem to you that we’ve been experiencing constant change? Both the viral disease and responses to the threat of that disease have brought changes that affect millions of people. Into this ever-changing environment now comes what? More … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Lost and Found

Posted on March 6, 2022 by RealityCheck

“So many people feel lost.” I read that comment recently and it’s stuck with me like a nagging thorn in my shoe. Why? Perhaps it so succinctly expressed my perception. I have a haunting sense that many people—young and not-so-young—are … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Opinions, Beliefs, and Relationships

Posted on February 27, 2022 by RealityCheck

Do you base your opinions on facts? Science? Data? Common Sense? Of course you do. So do I. So, how can it be that we have different opinions about important things? It’s easy enough to accept that we have different … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Trapped by Thoughts? Here’s a Suggestion

Posted on February 20, 2022 by RealityCheck

No time to think? Feel that you can’t stop what you’re doing for one minute? People are depending on you. Things must be done; we can think later. If that’s your perception, you know it’s hard to stop, step back … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: To Fill a Caring Gap

Posted on February 13, 2022 by RealityCheck

When we’re not able to satisfy our basic needs, we’re unhappy. So I proposed examining our needs. Find out whether our needs are being met. If not, where are the gaps? You may be thinking, it’s all well and good … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What’s your outlook for today?

Posted on February 6, 2022 by RealityCheck

How are you doing today? We ask and answer that question so many times in our lives—at home, at work, with friends, in casual conversations. Often it’s a throwaway question; just a way of saying something to be polite. However, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Past and Future Worries

Posted on January 31, 2022 by RealityCheck

“One trip through the misery is more than enough for most people.” That’s a quote from Dr. Wm. Glasser where he discusses the value—or lack of value—of dwelling on past miseries. The past is over. We can’t change what we … Continue reading →

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