Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: Choosing to Find Joy in the Process

For a little over a year, I’ve had an orchid sitting on my table. It’s a tiny plant in a tiny purple pot. When it was given to me, it was in full bloom. The blooms lasted for what seemed … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Happiness Benefit

Does happiness benefit happy people? Or is it the benefits that happy people have that cause their happiness? It’s the happiness version of the chicken and egg question; which comes first: the happiness or the benefits? For example, a happy … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choices in Conflict

What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Reality of Imperfection

There’s plenty in society, culture, politics, education and life in general that’s not perfect. I don’t believe that it’s ever been perfect. I highly doubt that it ever will be perfect in the future. Furthermore, my views of what constitutes … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Grow Accountability

I have many good intentions. Perhaps you do, too! Those intentions include plans for what I will do for others as well as what I need or want to do for myself. They range from lofty to mundane; from developing … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Relationships and the Bottom Line

When we talk about improving relationships, you might think it’s touchy-feely advice for personal relationships. However, we have business relationships, too. Is your workplace filled with good relationships? Or does it have its share of poor, dysfunctional relationships? Pretty much … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Structure for a Satisfying Life

The upside of dissatisfaction is that it can be a useful motivator to drive improvement. That’s grasping at straws to find a positive spin, isn’t it? Seriously though, if we had no dissatisfaction, why would we ever improve? One area … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing Hope

Catastrophizing. It’s a dramatic word, isn’t it? When we look ahead, whether it’s to a new year or just an ordinary new day, we can look with a perspective that’s filled with hope for the promise of things to come. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Look Back, What Do You See?

As we approach the end of another year, many of us like to take stock. Part of taking stock involves looking back over the past year or over many past years, to assess where we’ve been and where we are … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Gift of Recognition

When you flip through the flyers, watch TV, or even read a newspaper at this time of year, you’ll see gift suggestions. There’s lots of opportunity to show that you care by buying something. As I was pondering gift-shopping, some … Continue reading

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