Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: Feelings for the Future

Posted on December 16, 2018 by RealityCheck

Imagine the future. Maybe your daydreams are happy ones—winning the lottery, lazing on sandy beaches surrounded by loving friends and family. It’s a future with happiness, health, and good will. Or perhaps the future that springs to mind is filled … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Cards of Connection

Posted on December 9, 2018 by RealityCheck

My grandmother used to send out Christmas cards. Not just a few cards; it must have been hundreds. Well, maybe “hundreds” is an exaggerated memory, but I clearly recollect the lengthy list of names in the little notebook that emerged … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Choosing Happiness from your Money

Posted on December 3, 2018 by RealityCheck

There are many more important things than money: health, family, relationships, personal growth, just to name a few. Money isn’t even mentioned in the choice theory list of five basic needs: security/survival, love/belonging, power, freedom, and fun. However, while money … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Big Pile-On

Posted on November 25, 2018 by RealityCheck

You may have noticed that when one thing goes badly, other things seem to go badly at the same time. The car breaks down, then the dog gets sick, and then your workplace explodes with new emergencies that apparently only … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Setting the Tone

Posted on November 18, 2018 by RealityCheck

The other day, we were reminiscing about Barry. If Barry asked you to do something, you would do it, even if it was inconvenient. Barry is just the kind of guy that you want to help out. As we were … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Greater Expectations

Posted on November 12, 2018 by RealityCheck

I’d caught the tail end of a conversation about math scores and a possible connection with the practice of moving students along in grade level regardless of whether they’ve mastered skills. It’s possible that I misunderstood. I’m sure what I … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Your Menu Choices

Posted on November 4, 2018 by RealityCheck

If you want something to grow, it’s generally a good idea to feed it. Don’t want more? Then don’t feed it. That reasoning seems to hold true for the waistline; what if we apply it to emotions? Noreen looks back … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: What we choose to want

Posted on October 28, 2018 by RealityCheck

We do a lot of comparing, don’t we? In Choice Theory, Dr. Glasser even talks about a “comparing place” in our brains. He uses the image of a balance scale; on one side sits what we want and on the … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Disillusioned Learner

Posted on October 22, 2018 by RealityCheck

Barb tried gardening last year for the first time. It was awesome! Barb was ecstatic with her beautiful tomatoes and huge cucumbers. Her marigolds flowered and her sunflowers were so very sunny. Barb was hooked. All winter, she said, “I … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Minute of Kindness

Posted on October 14, 2018 by RealityCheck

One of the email addresses that I’m responsible for is similar to that of an organization far, far away. So, sometimes I receive email that was intended for someone else. Occasionally, it’s obvious that a message is important to the … Continue reading →

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