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Reality Check: How Can You Tell Whether It’s A Good Relationship?
Choice theory emphasizes self-evaluation. As the word implies, to self-evaluate is to evaluate, for yourself, how well something is working. To self-evaluate, you consider what you want, compare it to the reality, and then determine how well they match. It’s … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged improving relationships, perception, responsibility, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Mind Reader
Would you like to read minds? When someone looks you in the eye and tells you a tale, do you wonder, “What are they really thinking?” On the one hand, the ability to read minds sounds great. You’d never be … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged choosing thoughts, conflict, perception
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Reality Check: Reflections from the Storm
In these posts, I’ve often mentioned power as one of our basic needs. The power I refer to is the need to feel that we are recognized and have value. However, when we had “a bit of a blow” here … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged basic needs, gratitude, power, priorities
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Reality Check: Different wants for different folks
“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged "should", basic needs, criticism, examining wants
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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World
Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading
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Tagged examining wants, improving relationships, internal & external control, perception
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Reality Check: Suggestions for the Workplace Feud
Last post, I described a workplace feud between Millie and Billy that’s gotten out of hand. What to do? Dr. Glasser suggested that the need for power is a basic human need. Because “power” is such a charged word, I … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged choosing actions, conflict, need satisfaction, power, work
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Reality Check: The Workplace Feud
Do you remember the old western movies that featured families fighting each other for generations? The original dispute is long forgotten, but the hatred continues. Feuds aren’t confined to families, and one place where they are particularly unhelpful is in … Continue reading
Reality Check: The Helping Professions
Many people have a genuine wish to be helpful; that is, to take actions that are of service to others. Wanting to help is a fine aspiration. To be of service benefits both the helper and those who are helped. … Continue reading
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Tagged choosing actions, helpful, reality, work
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Reality Check: The Joy:Cost Ratio
There’s a little guy who occasionally passes by my office door. Whenever he does, he exclaims, “I’ve got my thinking cat on!” It’s adorable. No matter how busy or stressed or distracted I am, I get pure joy for those … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Perspective
Tagged fun, happiness, perception, priorities
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