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Reality Check: Telling It Like It Is

Do you find it difficult to talk about things that are really important? It’s easier to talk about the trivial, especially when we agree. We commiserate about the weather and the price of gas. We share our delight about the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What makes a difference?

Do you want to make a difference? When asked about their purpose or goals in life, many will answer with some variation of, “I want to make a difference and do something that matters.” Often, that wish is connected to … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Building a Relationship – Deliberately

We might take the building of relationships for granted. Relationships just happen—we meet someone; we hit it off for whatever reason, and we have a relationship! To be clear, I’m not referring to romantic relationships here. I’m talking about the … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Caution! Mindreading While Listening

When doing an important task, it works best if you concentrate fully on that one task while you are doing it. For example, you and I both know better than to text while driving. Driving is an important task, and … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Critic

Do you detect that there’s a lot of criticism in your life? If so, how does it feel to be criticized? Are you grateful to have the errors of your ways pointed out to you? Or not so much? When … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choosing to Find Joy in the Process

For a little over a year, I’ve had an orchid sitting on my table. It’s a tiny plant in a tiny purple pot. When it was given to me, it was in full bloom. The blooms lasted for what seemed … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Happiness Benefit

Does happiness benefit happy people? Or is it the benefits that happy people have that cause their happiness? It’s the happiness version of the chicken and egg question; which comes first: the happiness or the benefits? For example, a happy … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Choices in Conflict

What does it mean to win a conflict? Does it mean that you prevailed on the issue, i.e. got your way? Does it mean that you are recognized by others as the clear victor while your opponent is humiliated? Perhaps … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Reality of Imperfection

There’s plenty in society, culture, politics, education and life in general that’s not perfect. I don’t believe that it’s ever been perfect. I highly doubt that it ever will be perfect in the future. Furthermore, my views of what constitutes … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Grow Accountability

I have many good intentions. Perhaps you do, too! Those intentions include plans for what I will do for others as well as what I need or want to do for myself. They range from lofty to mundane; from developing … Continue reading

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