Tag Archives: choosing actions

Reality Check: How Can I Make This Work?

Posted on October 30, 2022 by RealityCheck

Let’s say you have a challenge in your life. Most of us do at some point; oftentimes, we have multiple challenges at the same time. But for the sake of simplicity, let’s say we have just one challenge. I’ll use … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When Someone Wants to Pick a Fight

Posted on September 18, 2022 by RealityCheck

Do you know someone who wants to pick a fight? Perhaps there’s somebody in your family or at work who wants to argue. Some people enjoy a fight. But the fact that someone wants to fight with you doesn’t mean … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Overcoming Reach-Out Hesitancy

Posted on September 12, 2022 by RealityCheck

Even when our lives are going poorly, it’s still possible to feel satisfied if we have good connections with people. Dr. Wm. Glasser refers to a basic need for love and belonging. While he suggests that the need is universal, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When the Choice Isn’t Clear

Posted on August 14, 2022 by RealityCheck

How do you make decisions? We’re influenced by experience, preferences, perhaps trustworthy advice. And there are emotions, too. When we’re feeling fearful, angry or resentful, we likely won’t make the same decisions as when we are brimming with confidence, love, … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The State of Stuck

Posted on June 27, 2022 by RealityCheck

When you’re thinking about places you’d like to visit, I suspect that the State of Stuck isn’t on your list. For one thing, it’s not even a place; it’s a state of mind. What I’m calling the State of Stuck … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Auto-Pilot and Conscious Choices

Posted on June 19, 2022 by RealityCheck

The traffic light turns red. We stop. Well, most of us do, anyway. Did the traffic light make us stop? Not really. We could have gone sailing through, possibly causing injury and mayhem. But we choose not to do that … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Step by Step

Posted on May 29, 2022 by RealityCheck

Different people like different things. One clear example is in food preparation. Some people love recipes; others hate recipes. Some of us like to follow procedures; others don’t. If you like procedures, then you might like Dr. Bob Wubbolding’s four-step … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Running for the Roses

Posted on May 23, 2022 by RealityCheck

It’s extraordinary when a little guy—an outsider—unexpectedly wins a big event. This year’s Kentucky Derby was notable for exactly that: a huge 80-1 win by Rich Strike, a horse that just the day before didn’t look like he was going … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Body, Mind and Feelings

Posted on April 24, 2022 by RealityCheck

“You won’t gag if you hum.” This I learned from a dental professional. It’s true—you don’t even have to carry a tune! Who knew? This practical little trick reminds me of other connections between actions and physiology. Dr. William Glasser … Continue reading →

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Reality Check: When Times Are Tough

Posted on April 18, 2022 by RealityCheck

At some point, I suspect that everyone faces a tough time. Your tough time could look quite different from my tough time. However, all of our tough times may have more in common than we’d think. When something interferes with … Continue reading →

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