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Reality Check: Sidestep your Traps
Why do I keep doing that? I should know better by now! That’s the way Sophie beats herself up after conversations with her mother. Why, indeed? The relationship with her mom was never great. Sophie is warm and outgoing, whereas … Continue reading
Posted in Control and Choice
Tagged conflict, criticism, freedom, perception, power
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Reality Check: Joe’s New Job
Joe’s employment history could be described as “spotty.” It’s not that he can’t find work; Joe is able to get hired relatively easily. He’s articulate and presents himself in an interview as being pleasant and intelligent. However, Joe has developed … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged comparing with others, criticism, examining wants, making choices, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Better Left Unsaid?
Communication is generally recognized as being essential to the development of satisfying relationships. I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. All kinds of relationships: friends, work-related, parent-child, student-teacher, benefit when people can communicate effectively. Did you notice the word … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged criticism, frustration, improving relationships
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Reality Check: The Angry Stance
Do you have an automatic mode? That is, do you wake up feeling pretty much the same every day? Is your first reaction to a situation more or less the same, despite whether the situation is positive or negative? Some … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged "should", criticism, dissatisfaction, perception
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Reality Check: Their Good News
How do you respond when someone tells you their good news? In his book Flourish, Martin Seligman describes four ways of responding, and suggests that only one of those ways is helpful for relationship building. Let’s look at an example. … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged criticism, happiness, improving relationships
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Reality Check: “Should” versus “Could”
One little word sometimes makes a world of difference, doesn’t it? Some are obvious contrasts: “I love you” versus “I hate you;” or “I don’t care” versus “I do care.” However, other small changes are not so obvious, yet have … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged "should", criticism, guilt, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: The Offer of Information
A choice theory premise is that we can’t control other people; however, we can offer information. Someone who accepts information might learn a new fact, be persuaded to make a decision, or be influenced to act differently. Fundamentally, though, what … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged criticism, offering information, perception
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Reality Check: Experiments in Encouragement
How do we learn? One effective method involves coming up with an idea and then trying an experiment to see whether the idea works as we think it will. Observe what happens, and then draw a conclusion based on what … Continue reading
Posted in Helping Others
Tagged criticism, learning, offering information
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Reality Check: When Evaluation Gets Personal
Last column, I offered suggestions regarding workplace evaluations and ways to prepare so as to gain some control over what can be a stressful situation. The workplace is not the only venue where we are evaluated! What’s happening when your … Continue reading
Posted in Choosing Behaviour
Tagged criticism, offering information, perception, self-evaluation
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Reality Check: Evaluation time
At some point in our lives, most of us are evaluated. Evaluation may be a rare, stress-filled event or a routine, near-constant process. Evaluation occurs at school, when a teacher assigns a grade. As adults, we are often evaluated in … Continue reading
Posted in Workplace
Tagged anxiety, criticism, self-evaluation
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