Category Archives: Choosing Perspective

Reality Check: Holding on to Your Keys

Of the clever book titles I’ve found, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them The Keys” by Dr. Mike Bechtle is among the catchiest. Bechtle clearly identifies that there are some things we can change and other … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Essence of Home

What makes a house a home? You’ve seen the decorative signs that say home is where the heart is or that love makes a house a home. What does that really mean? Feeling that we are loved is one of … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Mind Reader

Would you like to read minds? When someone looks you in the eye and tells you a tale, do you wonder, “What are they really thinking?” On the one hand, the ability to read minds sounds great. You’d never be … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Reflections from the Storm

In these posts, I’ve often mentioned power as one of our basic needs. The power I refer to is the need to feel that we are recognized and have value. However, when we had “a bit of a blow” here … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Different wants for different folks

“I don’t know why you think you need all that stuff.” From his mom’s perspective, James is continuously on kijiji, eBay and buy & sell groups, looking for a deal. He’s accumulated tools, parts, gadgets of all sorts. “Why?” she … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Our “What We Want” World

Dr. Wm. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” includes a chapter entitled “The Pictures in our Heads.” Does the concept of pictures in your head make sense to you? Do you have pictures in your head? Are they vivid … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Joy:Cost Ratio

There’s a little guy who occasionally passes by my office door. Whenever he does, he exclaims, “I’ve got my thinking cat on!” It’s adorable. No matter how busy or stressed or distracted I am, I get pure joy for those … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What does your mind rest upon?

Dr. Rick Hanson writes a regular email newsletter called Just One Thing, subtitled, “Simple practices for resilient happiness.” In a recent publication, he said, “There is a traditional saying that the mind takes its shape from what it rests upon.” … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Challenge of Forgetfulness

Do you believe that you are forgetful? If so, do you find that troubling? Recently, I explored some research around learning and what we might do to help people retain what they’ve learned. I had looked at this research before, … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Joy of Ownership

The other day, while I was picking up trash by the roadside, I pondered the things that one tends to ponder while picking up trash by the roadside. For example, I pondered, “Why would anyone throw their trash on the … Continue reading

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