Author Archives: RealityCheck

Reality Check: The Satisfaction of Being Useful

Dr. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” is subtitled, “How to get what you need with choice theory psychology.” In it, we are encouraged to make our choices deliberately and to evaluate the results. We have to make choices … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Trust and Betrayal

“What can you do when you believe that your trust has been betrayed?” That question was posed to me recently, and even if you’ve never had a “betrayal experience,” it could still be worthwhile to put some thought into it. … Continue reading

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Reality Check: If the cat would only change

Have you ever heard yourself saying, “If only [fill in whatever name you like here] would behave more sensibly. If only they’d pay attention. If only they were more responsible. You know, if only they would act like we want … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Seeds of Goodwill

One day a few months back, a person I consider to be something of a mentor for me was taken ill. We are not closely connected, but I respect his work and consider him a trustworthy advisor. So I sent … Continue reading

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Reality Check: To Speak or To Hold Your Peace

Do you ever have moments in conversation when you wonder, “Should I speak up? Or is it better to bite my tongue?” In some cases, it can seem like we don’t even have a choice. Let’s say someone has said … Continue reading

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Reality Check: What We Tell Ourselves

Do you talk to yourself? Some people have a rich inner conversation going on in their heads all the time; others have no idea what I’m referring to. That’s just another reminder of how different people are! This column is … Continue reading

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Reality Check: Seize the Moment

Is today one of those days when you feel like you could take on the world? Or…not so much? Our moods and energies can affect our results. When you’re feeling positive and energetic, have you seen that people treat you … Continue reading

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Reality Check: That First Impulse

“Follow your heart.” This phrase is on T-shirts, plaques, coffee mugs. People quote it and presumably rely on it as a guiding principle. Let’s take a look at what that might mean.

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Reality Check: Honk, Honk!

Did you hear the story about the driverless cars that got into an argument in a parking lot and kept honking at each other? Funny story! Funny, that is, unless you live in the neighbourhood and don’t enjoy a 4AM … Continue reading

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Reality Check: The Benefit of Small Inspirations

While cleaning my desk, I happened to bump the mouse, causing a video to begin playing on my computer. This video is not a professional production. It’s a little wobbly; the product of somebody who happened to have their phone … Continue reading

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