Reality Check: Is It Infectious?

Posted on December 15, 2024 by RealityCheck

Post-pandemic, we’re all aware of how easy it can be to catch something nasty. Thus, we take measures to prevent getting infected. We might avoid situations where we could be exposed to disease or we might try to build up our general health. Putting in a small effort to potentially prevent a big negative outcome is a pretty good investment!
Our bodies aren’t the only part of us that could “catch” something, though. How about feelings? Are they infectious? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: It Takes Two to Insult

Posted on December 8, 2024 by RealityCheck

They say that it takes two to tango, but that’s not all! Lots of activities depend on cooperation, and it’s important to cooperate in many situations.
Is cooperation always the right thing? Of course not. When it’s an evil, destructive, or relationship-destroying action, then our cooperation doesn’t make it better. Mind you, different people’s perceptions of which specific actions are evil, destructive, etc. are different. But in general, cooperating on positive things can lead to positive outcomes. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Things That Are Working

Posted on December 1, 2024 by RealityCheck

As the grey days of winter set in, spirits can turn grey too. Winter is coming; will it be a hard one or an easy one? Predictions aren’t perfect, but it’s safe to say it’ll get colder and there will probably be snow!
Focusing on the future is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it helps us prepare. We can gather warm clothes before the days get cold; stock supplies in case the power goes out. Planning ahead is a practical life strategy.
However, a future focus can also feed uncertainty and dread. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Can Good Come From Setbacks?

Posted on November 24, 2024 by RealityCheck

“How’s it going?” Has anyone asked you that recently? If so, how do you respond? Often we say, “Fine,” regardless of what’s happening. It is a practical answer, especially if we believe that the person asking isn’t really interested in our current life story.
Fact is, there are some times in our lives that do go better than others, don’t they? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Stocking the Toolkit

Posted on November 24, 2024 by RealityCheck

If you wanted to equip a young person with the tools they need to have a satisfying life, what would you choose?
My long-standing answer contains only three items: we need to be able to read, to write, and to do basic math. Why those?
If we can read well, then we have a great opportunity to learn. And we aren’t limited to learning what the people around us want us to learn, either. We have the freedom to seek a wide variety of knowledge, from the ancient to the modern. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Sticking to the Plan

Posted on November 10, 2024 by RealityCheck

When I recently reviewed my to-do list, I was pleasantly surprised to see that I had accomplished more than I had realized!
Perceptions are funny. Lots of factors contribute to how we perceive whether we are making progress. Brand new tasks continually pop up in front of us, insisting that they be handled. We could get the impression that we are making no headway at all. That would be discouraging, wouldn’t it? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Fishing for Choices

Posted on November 3, 2024 by RealityCheck

A story about halibut fishing in Alaska recently caught my attention. Now, I’m not generally interested in halibut fishing, and although Alaska is undoubtedly lovely, it doesn’t hold any special appeal for me.
What intrigued me was that the story appeared in the International Journal of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. Dr. Janet Morgan described her fishing experience, which her husband and friends had convinced her would be calm, safe, and result in catching halibut.
Have you ever participated in something “fun” that you didn’t really want to do, but you agreed anyway? Continue reading →

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Reality Check: The Satisfaction of Being Useful

Posted on October 27, 2024 by RealityCheck

Dr. Glasser’s book, “Take Charge of Your Life” is subtitled, “How to get what you need with choice theory psychology.” In it, we are encouraged to make our choices deliberately and to evaluate the results.
We have to make choices every day, and it’s not always obvious what we should choose. What’s best? Sometimes none of the options look good. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: Trust and Betrayal

Posted on October 20, 2024 by RealityCheck

“What can you do when you believe that your trust has been betrayed?” That question was posed to me recently, and even if you’ve never had a “betrayal experience,” it could still be worthwhile to put some thought into it.
As you might expect, my immediate response is, “It depends.” A difficult situation often involves many factors, and I find that I usually have more questions than answers. Having some appropriate questions to ask ourselves (or others)can at least get us started on the path to an effective response.
If I believed a bond of trust had been broken with me, here are some of the questions I would ask myself. Perhaps you’ll find them useful should this happen to you. Continue reading →

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Reality Check: If the cat would only change

Posted on October 13, 2024 by RealityCheck

Have you ever heard yourself saying, “If only [fill in whatever name you like here] would behave more sensibly. If only they’d pay attention. If only they were more responsible. You know, if only they would act like we want them to act.”
Even when we know the futility of “if only,” it can be hard to let go of that line of thought. If you want to try to change it, here’s a way of looking that just might help.
If you’re familiar with households that have both a cat and a dog, you know that pets develop their own ways of interacting. The cat may be dominant; the dog may be dominant. (Yeah, right.) Continue reading →

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